When I think about parenting and myself being a mother it kind of freaks me out. I know for a fact, and I am pretty sure of my decision that I never want kids. Although everyone has told me so many times that I would make the most greatest mom in the world, I think I would be a really bad parent. I have no clue how children should be parented or what the right way to do so. I mean I have some ideas by hearing other people's ideas, television, etc. I have see results of different types of parenting like being too over protective, too unprotected, lack of communication, and the results by seeing people in school and friends. Although I am able to take notice I cannot really take what I notice and generate what I think is the perfect way of raising a child.
I do not think my parents were the best parents in the world otherwise our family would be together and perfect but I know my parents weren't complete failures either and did some things right because I grew up okay. I think. I hope. There are so many different ways of parenting, how would we ever know what the right one is? I do agree though that everyone tends to raise their child/children in some sort of way similar to the way their parents raised them whether they know it or not. Which is probably why I fear bearing a child so much.
All the things I dislike about how my parents raised me or handle certain situations, I always thought to myself "I am never going to be like that." We tell ourselves that we take what we notice our parents have done wrong and avoid it. I feel like this is the case like 20% of the time (that was a random guess). I always see these teen shows (16 and Pregnant on MTV) about pregnant young girls and the difficulty they go through. Most of which end up with a reunion of the mother crying and saying something like "I had her when I was 16, I didn't want her to do the same." Also, as I tend to get older I have really taken notice that I am inheriting certain things that my parents do that I told myself I wouldn't. One for example is that my mom has a intense shopping addiction. Its not just her being a "girl" or whatever people like to stereotype but she spends the majority of her money on designer clothing and such instead of pay for bills (she use to at least, this is not the case anymore).
Sadly, I have to admit I have started to take notice that I have been wasting money on useless things such as clothing just like my mother. Which makes me want to have a child even less! Luckily although my dad is not perfect I now sort of notice how hard working he is even at his age he is still trying to bring in the money. Which in my opinion should show me how I should be in the future. Hard working. I think good parenting is setting a good example for your child. I have heard this many times. If you raise your child and show them how to act (which I am not sure how yet) they hopefully they will grow up to be the same way. There would be no bad things your child will develop because of your genes.
And that was my huge rant on parenting which hopefully made sense because I don't even know if I knew what I was trying to say.
When Parenting Theories Backfire
I thought this article was really cute. I know nothing about parenting I think so this shows me that letting the kid do whatever they want and figure things out on their own and what mistakes not to make is not the right way to go. Although I am not sure if the child being a good negotiator is a bad thing in general, it is bad to the mother as it goes against her wishes.
It was funny how by presenting choices to her children it totally backfired as the kids ended up presenting her their choices. It shows how children can so easily pick up on how you decide to run things. I think its good to give your child some freedom to be able to learn from their mistakes on their own as well as figure out alternative choices to things. This article however shoes the cut off point, how a child may need some choices made for them.
Diana Baumrind's (1966) Prototypical Descriptions of 3 Parenting Styles
When reading this article it immediately struck me of what kind of parenting would probably be seen as the best in society as the other two would be judged and looked down upon. Not that I am saying I disagree but the type of parenting that seems the most effective or "good" is the authoritative parent. This type of parent seems to have a balance of having a good amount of authority and giving the child the right amount of "freedom". It is also weird that always in a parenting explanation that the parent is always a "she." I am pretty sure men can be parents too.
It makes me wonder if there are any other categories then these three. I think these three categories are just really general. This does really show how people tend to really get judge by their parenting ways. I think this is really why parents are so anxious about how the way their children act because it is always seen as a reflection of the parent or the parent's fault.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Saturday, May 15, 2010
HW 56
1.Some Interview Questions:
-How many close friends do you have (as in best friends)?
-What are the main components of a good friendship?
-Do you think many lifelong friends come from school such as high school or college?--How did you find your best friend?
-What are some benefits of having a relationship with a good friend?
-Do you think there can be negatives to having a best friend?
-What does a relationship between two friends have that is different then a relationship between two lovers (besides from being intimate,sex,etc)?
2. Interviews
Granit
How many close/good/best friends do you have?
Three
What do you main components of a good friendship is? What do you have with those three friends that you do not have with acquaintances?
Like we show a good amount of respect with each other. We don't try to do anything to put down each other or try to impress each other too much. We act ourselves. So there is like a level of comfort being around each other.
How many lifelong friends do you think you will have from high school?
Probably two or three.
What about college if you could guess?
Maybe like 5.
What do you think college in college you will have more lifelong friends?
I think its because when you get out of high school your life tends to change a lot so you'll make more friends that have more similar interests.
What are the negatives/positives of having a best friends?
The benefits are that you have someone to always talk to and hang out with if you need them. And I don't know whats really bad about having a best friend.
What do you think you the differences is between a relationships between a gf/bf and a friend? (besides from sex,etc)
If it's besides sex and everything, basically finding a intimate relationship is like trying to find a quality that you want in a best friend. Although no one says you can't have sex with your best friends, but if your looking for a intimate relationship your also looking for sex appeal but when your looking for a best friend your just looking for someone you can just relate to and share those problems about your other intimate relationships.
Stephanie
How many best friends/good friends do you have?
I say two tops.
What makes a good/best friend? Why are they your friends out of everyone?
Because they are dependable and trustworthy because I don't think a lot of people are fully trustworthy but they are somewhat trustworthy.
How do you know they are trustworthy?
Because we have exganged information to each other that you would only say to people you trust.
What do you think the main compenents of a good friendship is?
Reliablitiy, obviously trust. And I think those are the two main things. Common interests but you can have common interests with anyone, just because you have similar interest doesn't mean you guys have to be good friends. I don't think that should be the base of a friendship.
Do you think there are any negatives to like friendships?
Yes. Well, when you have a friend you tend to share a lot of things with them and you invite them to your life. Friends develope jelousy which can lead to backstabbing and like betrayal. When you have a close friend you are putting yourself in a vunerable position, when your betrayed by a friend you get hurt. Friendships can be difficult. Any type of relationship with another person can be complex.
What do you think the differences is between a intimate relationship between a bf/gf and a friendship besides from sex, and physical attractions, etc?
I don't think there is any, I think even the bertayal between bf and friends are the same if you want to take away the sex and physical interactions I think a boyfriend and a friend are basically the same.
Christian
How many best friends/good friends do you have?
um, I think I have around ten.
How many life long friends do you think you will attain from high school?
I think three.
What about college?
I think probably like one.
So how come you went from ten to three?
I think I went from ten to three because I think you loose more friends as you get older because we want to get closer to more people but its difficult to get close to ten people and out of those ten people you can probably only get close to three.
What do you think the main components of a good friendship is?
I trust them, we are both funny. We are similar in some aspects and he/she is easy to get along with.
What are the positives/negatives of a friendship relationship?
Well there is always going to be drama. Even with a best friend. And something positive....... your good friends.
What do you think the differences is between a intimate relationship between a bf/gf and a lifelong friend besides from physical attraction and sex, etc?
I don't really know. I can't answer that but they are pretty much the same thing. If you think about it, besides from physical attrition what you share with your gf it's pretty much the same as what you share with you best friend. Issues, your daily life, etc. Although you wouldn't talk to your gf about funny shit. Like crude shit.
So there is a differences, what wouldn't you do between each?
With my gf I would go out to dinner, and with a friend I'd probably play paint ball. I think its because I am mixed up between relationship between comfortable relationships and like a "strict" bussniessy relationship.
Javier
How many best friends/good friends do you have?
Two
What are the main components a good relationship with a friend?
Trust, loyalty, honesty, communication, interaction, and positivity. There is probably more but I'm too lazy.
Do you think many life long friends come from high school or college?
I think most of them come from high school and the beginning of college.
Why do you think people mainly gain best friends in the "begining" of things like in high school or college while people are still young?
I think that not in the beginning of high school but the ending of high school. You start to realize who really liked you and who are trustworthy to be your friends. And the beginning of high school you tend to see who is still friends with you throughout college.
So you don't technique gain good friends in college?
Yeah, basically true.
What are the positives and negatives of a friendship?
Thats difficult for me to think right now because I can't think of any negatives of having a best friend, there best friends.
Then maybe why do you people want friendships?
I guess to not feel lonely, depressed and emotional. Sometimes you have to have human interaction and be able to express things to someone about stressful things.
What do you think the difference is between an intimate relationship with a bf/gf is and a friendship relationship besides etc.?
I don't know really. There is no difference. There both best friends and both honest and loyal. I think it can be more difficult to find a friend then it is to find a boyfriend or girlfriend. I know its hard to understand and maybe sound weird but I feel like people have checklists for what they see in trying to find a friend or a gf/bf. For me its harder to find a friend because my checklist for a good friend is pretty general or wide open. My checklist for a girlfriend is more specific and has more narrow cause were humans trying to find someone to be intimate with for the rest of our lives and to bear our kids. I know sounds like a stupid metaphor but it makes sense in my head.
3. There was a lot of similar answers between each person. The question I noticed that they really got stuck on was the last one about the difference between a gf/bf relationship and a friendship. There really is not difference between a interactions between your friends and your intimate relationships. When I think about it with my boyfriend, my boyfriend and I are best friends. I think my boyfriend is my only best friend to be honest, even though that sounds sad I am happy with that. I think there is like a physiological thing between each person. I would like to further investigate how it affects your mind exactly. I remember talking about this in physiology class last year but I somewhat forgot. It was really hard to identify the differences if you leave out physical attraction and sex.
Although I feel like when you choose your friends you do look at physical attraction sometimes. You try to find a friend with similar clothing style and I think people tend to subconsciously choose friends on how "good looking" they are sometimes whether they know it or not. I am not saying this is everyone but most people whether they realize it. For example people tend to judge people before they get to know them. I hear this saying a lot. At times when there is like a "new" kid of person coming into a familiar zone people tend to get judged by the way they look and depending on how they look some people may determine right away if they are friend worthy. It is a stupid way of determining friendships but people do it.
For example I finally FINALLY got a job after a year of searching (the only way I got it is through connections) but when I first started three weeks ago my other fellow "coworkers" quickly determined whether they wanted to get to know me or completely ignore me. This most likely has to do with either how I look, how i dress (although the dress code is all black so there is nothing to look at), or maybe even my race. Who knows, I sure don't. Whatever it is it made me only make one friend out of the thousands of people who work there. Makes me feel kind of like crap but I see it as just a place to work, get money, and get the hell out.
It also interests me how the majority of students who I interviewed in my class figured they would have more friends in college then they do in high school. And as they get older they loose friends. I always heard the saying that friends come and go. Although are people ever in a search of finding just one best life long friend just like everyone in search of that one life long mate (most of the time at least).
4. You believe you can make a really great friend but you find it difficult to make/find friends that like you for "who you are".
Agree Disagree...etc.
-How many close friends do you have (as in best friends)?
-What are the main components of a good friendship?
-Do you think many lifelong friends come from school such as high school or college?--How did you find your best friend?
-What are some benefits of having a relationship with a good friend?
-Do you think there can be negatives to having a best friend?
-What does a relationship between two friends have that is different then a relationship between two lovers (besides from being intimate,sex,etc)?
2. Interviews
Granit
How many close/good/best friends do you have?
Three
What do you main components of a good friendship is? What do you have with those three friends that you do not have with acquaintances?
Like we show a good amount of respect with each other. We don't try to do anything to put down each other or try to impress each other too much. We act ourselves. So there is like a level of comfort being around each other.
How many lifelong friends do you think you will have from high school?
Probably two or three.
What about college if you could guess?
Maybe like 5.
What do you think college in college you will have more lifelong friends?
I think its because when you get out of high school your life tends to change a lot so you'll make more friends that have more similar interests.
What are the negatives/positives of having a best friends?
The benefits are that you have someone to always talk to and hang out with if you need them. And I don't know whats really bad about having a best friend.
What do you think you the differences is between a relationships between a gf/bf and a friend? (besides from sex,etc)
If it's besides sex and everything, basically finding a intimate relationship is like trying to find a quality that you want in a best friend. Although no one says you can't have sex with your best friends, but if your looking for a intimate relationship your also looking for sex appeal but when your looking for a best friend your just looking for someone you can just relate to and share those problems about your other intimate relationships.
Stephanie
How many best friends/good friends do you have?
I say two tops.
What makes a good/best friend? Why are they your friends out of everyone?
Because they are dependable and trustworthy because I don't think a lot of people are fully trustworthy but they are somewhat trustworthy.
How do you know they are trustworthy?
Because we have exganged information to each other that you would only say to people you trust.
What do you think the main compenents of a good friendship is?
Reliablitiy, obviously trust. And I think those are the two main things. Common interests but you can have common interests with anyone, just because you have similar interest doesn't mean you guys have to be good friends. I don't think that should be the base of a friendship.
Do you think there are any negatives to like friendships?
Yes. Well, when you have a friend you tend to share a lot of things with them and you invite them to your life. Friends develope jelousy which can lead to backstabbing and like betrayal. When you have a close friend you are putting yourself in a vunerable position, when your betrayed by a friend you get hurt. Friendships can be difficult. Any type of relationship with another person can be complex.
What do you think the differences is between a intimate relationship between a bf/gf and a friendship besides from sex, and physical attractions, etc?
I don't think there is any, I think even the bertayal between bf and friends are the same if you want to take away the sex and physical interactions I think a boyfriend and a friend are basically the same.
Christian
How many best friends/good friends do you have?
um, I think I have around ten.
How many life long friends do you think you will attain from high school?
I think three.
What about college?
I think probably like one.
So how come you went from ten to three?
I think I went from ten to three because I think you loose more friends as you get older because we want to get closer to more people but its difficult to get close to ten people and out of those ten people you can probably only get close to three.
What do you think the main components of a good friendship is?
I trust them, we are both funny. We are similar in some aspects and he/she is easy to get along with.
What are the positives/negatives of a friendship relationship?
Well there is always going to be drama. Even with a best friend. And something positive....... your good friends.
What do you think the differences is between a intimate relationship between a bf/gf and a lifelong friend besides from physical attraction and sex, etc?
I don't really know. I can't answer that but they are pretty much the same thing. If you think about it, besides from physical attrition what you share with your gf it's pretty much the same as what you share with you best friend. Issues, your daily life, etc. Although you wouldn't talk to your gf about funny shit. Like crude shit.
So there is a differences, what wouldn't you do between each?
With my gf I would go out to dinner, and with a friend I'd probably play paint ball. I think its because I am mixed up between relationship between comfortable relationships and like a "strict" bussniessy relationship.
Javier
How many best friends/good friends do you have?
Two
What are the main components a good relationship with a friend?
Trust, loyalty, honesty, communication, interaction, and positivity. There is probably more but I'm too lazy.
Do you think many life long friends come from high school or college?
I think most of them come from high school and the beginning of college.
Why do you think people mainly gain best friends in the "begining" of things like in high school or college while people are still young?
I think that not in the beginning of high school but the ending of high school. You start to realize who really liked you and who are trustworthy to be your friends. And the beginning of high school you tend to see who is still friends with you throughout college.
So you don't technique gain good friends in college?
Yeah, basically true.
What are the positives and negatives of a friendship?
Thats difficult for me to think right now because I can't think of any negatives of having a best friend, there best friends.
Then maybe why do you people want friendships?
I guess to not feel lonely, depressed and emotional. Sometimes you have to have human interaction and be able to express things to someone about stressful things.
What do you think the difference is between an intimate relationship with a bf/gf is and a friendship relationship besides etc.?
I don't know really. There is no difference. There both best friends and both honest and loyal. I think it can be more difficult to find a friend then it is to find a boyfriend or girlfriend. I know its hard to understand and maybe sound weird but I feel like people have checklists for what they see in trying to find a friend or a gf/bf. For me its harder to find a friend because my checklist for a good friend is pretty general or wide open. My checklist for a girlfriend is more specific and has more narrow cause were humans trying to find someone to be intimate with for the rest of our lives and to bear our kids. I know sounds like a stupid metaphor but it makes sense in my head.
3. There was a lot of similar answers between each person. The question I noticed that they really got stuck on was the last one about the difference between a gf/bf relationship and a friendship. There really is not difference between a interactions between your friends and your intimate relationships. When I think about it with my boyfriend, my boyfriend and I are best friends. I think my boyfriend is my only best friend to be honest, even though that sounds sad I am happy with that. I think there is like a physiological thing between each person. I would like to further investigate how it affects your mind exactly. I remember talking about this in physiology class last year but I somewhat forgot. It was really hard to identify the differences if you leave out physical attraction and sex.
Although I feel like when you choose your friends you do look at physical attraction sometimes. You try to find a friend with similar clothing style and I think people tend to subconsciously choose friends on how "good looking" they are sometimes whether they know it or not. I am not saying this is everyone but most people whether they realize it. For example people tend to judge people before they get to know them. I hear this saying a lot. At times when there is like a "new" kid of person coming into a familiar zone people tend to get judged by the way they look and depending on how they look some people may determine right away if they are friend worthy. It is a stupid way of determining friendships but people do it.
For example I finally FINALLY got a job after a year of searching (the only way I got it is through connections) but when I first started three weeks ago my other fellow "coworkers" quickly determined whether they wanted to get to know me or completely ignore me. This most likely has to do with either how I look, how i dress (although the dress code is all black so there is nothing to look at), or maybe even my race. Who knows, I sure don't. Whatever it is it made me only make one friend out of the thousands of people who work there. Makes me feel kind of like crap but I see it as just a place to work, get money, and get the hell out.
It also interests me how the majority of students who I interviewed in my class figured they would have more friends in college then they do in high school. And as they get older they loose friends. I always heard the saying that friends come and go. Although are people ever in a search of finding just one best life long friend just like everyone in search of that one life long mate (most of the time at least).
4. You believe you can make a really great friend but you find it difficult to make/find friends that like you for "who you are".
Agree Disagree...etc.
Sunday, May 9, 2010
HW 55
Part 1:Question (Will Most likely Change Around):
-What do you need in order to find or maintain a long lasting friendship?
-What are the main components of a long lasting friendship?
or
What do you need in order maintain close communication between family members? (might focus on siblings or specific people in family)
One of those. I kinda just splurged whatever questions I thought of. Some help on my question is greatly appreciated because I am not even sure of what question would be good or how to rephrase them to make them more precise. :)
Part 2:
Brandon:
I am making you my triangle partner because your one of the only people who posted a question at this moment.
I think this is a great questions. Although I have heard that psychologists do have their own psychologist at times. At least that is what I have heard before. Most likely wrong. It is true though, people tend to think psychologist are more mentally stable and know how to deal just because they have a degree and career in psychology.
Although this is a great question it might be quite hard to find research on this. And what kind of relationships are you mainly focusing on? The relationship between a psychologist and his/her patient? Maybe if that is what you are focusing on you can research on what people tend to need to go to a psychologist for and start from there. Yep.
Stephanie
So maybe to make it more specifically towards relation ships you can say; how does the relationship between a child and their parents effect's a child's development? Or effects how a child's emotions are growing up?
I know you may want to compare the two types of kids but in order to do this I think you would probably need to look at the relationships between each child and their parents. Or maybe you would want to look up relationships in two married couples and see how their marriage effects the whole family. Kind of like the divorce example Andy wrote accept focusing more on how divorce effects the children.
Part 3
So I think I would like to focus more about the theme of friendship. Mainly because I have more of a difficult time making friends and there isn't really anything wrong or difficult about my relationship with my boyfriend. Although I do consider my boyfriend to be my best friend, so it makes me think that you need the same components in a intimate relationship as you do in a friendly relationship. I was going to do; what are the traits or skills needed in order to have a good relationship with friends but I feel like it would be as simple as "be a good listener", be "approachable", or "be trustworthy". So I am still a little bit contemplative about my focused question. Maybe I would be something like:
How do people choose what types of people they want to have a relationship with? What are the main reasons?
This would most likely change a little bit into the unit. This is mainly focusing on what are the things that help people choose a good friend, a good boyfriend/gf. Is it Personality? Commonality? Sexuality? Feelings? If not maybe I would focus on something like;
What are the values of a good friendship demonstrate and why?
-What do you need in order to find or maintain a long lasting friendship?
-What are the main components of a long lasting friendship?
or
What do you need in order maintain close communication between family members? (might focus on siblings or specific people in family)
One of those. I kinda just splurged whatever questions I thought of. Some help on my question is greatly appreciated because I am not even sure of what question would be good or how to rephrase them to make them more precise. :)
Part 2:
Brandon:
I am making you my triangle partner because your one of the only people who posted a question at this moment.
I think this is a great questions. Although I have heard that psychologists do have their own psychologist at times. At least that is what I have heard before. Most likely wrong. It is true though, people tend to think psychologist are more mentally stable and know how to deal just because they have a degree and career in psychology.
Although this is a great question it might be quite hard to find research on this. And what kind of relationships are you mainly focusing on? The relationship between a psychologist and his/her patient? Maybe if that is what you are focusing on you can research on what people tend to need to go to a psychologist for and start from there. Yep.
Stephanie
So maybe to make it more specifically towards relation ships you can say; how does the relationship between a child and their parents effect's a child's development? Or effects how a child's emotions are growing up?
I know you may want to compare the two types of kids but in order to do this I think you would probably need to look at the relationships between each child and their parents. Or maybe you would want to look up relationships in two married couples and see how their marriage effects the whole family. Kind of like the divorce example Andy wrote accept focusing more on how divorce effects the children.
Part 3
So I think I would like to focus more about the theme of friendship. Mainly because I have more of a difficult time making friends and there isn't really anything wrong or difficult about my relationship with my boyfriend. Although I do consider my boyfriend to be my best friend, so it makes me think that you need the same components in a intimate relationship as you do in a friendly relationship. I was going to do; what are the traits or skills needed in order to have a good relationship with friends but I feel like it would be as simple as "be a good listener", be "approachable", or "be trustworthy". So I am still a little bit contemplative about my focused question. Maybe I would be something like:
How do people choose what types of people they want to have a relationship with? What are the main reasons?
This would most likely change a little bit into the unit. This is mainly focusing on what are the things that help people choose a good friend, a good boyfriend/gf. Is it Personality? Commonality? Sexuality? Feelings? If not maybe I would focus on something like;
What are the values of a good friendship demonstrate and why?
HW 54
OKAY. I took this quiz over again because I felt that the first time I took it I rushed through it because I was tired.
ISFP - "Artist". Interested in the fine arts. Expression primarily through action or art form. The senses are keener than in other types. 8.8% of total population.
I do like fine arts so I feel this part is quite correct. Again I feel like these tests kind of put me in one category which makes me feel weird. Kind of like that category activity we did where we placed certain names in certain categories. I kind of wish I did not have to be placed in this Artist category with the other 8.8 percent of the population. I am guessing that when it says expressions primarily through action or art form that it means I can be a person that tends to be more to myself. This is true.
Although I feel like this test thing can be a lie or kind of like those fake physic readings. Mainly because the first time I took this quiz and rushed through it the first result I got seemed quite accurate as well. I feel like some times people try to find whatever they get from these results and try to make themselves believe that is what they are like.
Part 2:
Brandon: I am making you my triangle partner because your one of the only people who posted a question at this moment.
I think this is a great questions. Although I have heard that psychologists do have their own psychologist at times. At least that is what I have heard before. Most likely wrong. It is true though, people tend to think psychologist are more mentally stable and know how to deal just because they have a degree and career in psychology.
Although this is a great question it might be quite hard to find research on this. And what kind of relationships are you mainly focusing on? The relationship between a psychologist and his/her patient? Maybe if that is what you are focusing on you can research on what people tend to need to go to a psychologist for and start from there. Yep.
So when I did this test with my boyfriend, the manual way instead of the computer because we did not have a computer at that time. I figured I knew him well enough because I feel he is the closest person to my life right now. His results was INTJ. I guessed this for him and I was relieved that I was correct. I felt like this test stuff was kind of phony but I guess there is some part of it that defies a certain part of your personality. It still isn't like magical and looks deep into your soul or something. It did however show me his personality a little more. And it made me kind of realize that at times although I am a introvert and I like keeping to myself, friendly, and like listening to others I often at times like surrounding myself with extroverts or people who are my complete opposites. I am not sure why really. It can seem like a really awkward relationship and people would tend to want to be with people they have more in common with.
For example, my best friend is completely opposite with me. She likes to be loud and outgoing and always drawing attention and follows her feelings. A lot of people in my family such as my mom and dad are like extroverts too (accept for my brother who no one will ever figure out). I think this shows that personality differences may not be a major factor in making good relationship with people. Especially since the very few people who I have close in my life are people who seem to have a completely different personality then I do.
ISFP - "Artist". Interested in the fine arts. Expression primarily through action or art form. The senses are keener than in other types. 8.8% of total population.
I do like fine arts so I feel this part is quite correct. Again I feel like these tests kind of put me in one category which makes me feel weird. Kind of like that category activity we did where we placed certain names in certain categories. I kind of wish I did not have to be placed in this Artist category with the other 8.8 percent of the population. I am guessing that when it says expressions primarily through action or art form that it means I can be a person that tends to be more to myself. This is true.
Although I feel like this test thing can be a lie or kind of like those fake physic readings. Mainly because the first time I took this quiz and rushed through it the first result I got seemed quite accurate as well. I feel like some times people try to find whatever they get from these results and try to make themselves believe that is what they are like.
Part 2:
Brandon: I am making you my triangle partner because your one of the only people who posted a question at this moment.
I think this is a great questions. Although I have heard that psychologists do have their own psychologist at times. At least that is what I have heard before. Most likely wrong. It is true though, people tend to think psychologist are more mentally stable and know how to deal just because they have a degree and career in psychology.
Although this is a great question it might be quite hard to find research on this. And what kind of relationships are you mainly focusing on? The relationship between a psychologist and his/her patient? Maybe if that is what you are focusing on you can research on what people tend to need to go to a psychologist for and start from there. Yep.
So when I did this test with my boyfriend, the manual way instead of the computer because we did not have a computer at that time. I figured I knew him well enough because I feel he is the closest person to my life right now. His results was INTJ. I guessed this for him and I was relieved that I was correct. I felt like this test stuff was kind of phony but I guess there is some part of it that defies a certain part of your personality. It still isn't like magical and looks deep into your soul or something. It did however show me his personality a little more. And it made me kind of realize that at times although I am a introvert and I like keeping to myself, friendly, and like listening to others I often at times like surrounding myself with extroverts or people who are my complete opposites. I am not sure why really. It can seem like a really awkward relationship and people would tend to want to be with people they have more in common with.
For example, my best friend is completely opposite with me. She likes to be loud and outgoing and always drawing attention and follows her feelings. A lot of people in my family such as my mom and dad are like extroverts too (accept for my brother who no one will ever figure out). I think this shows that personality differences may not be a major factor in making good relationship with people. Especially since the very few people who I have close in my life are people who seem to have a completely different personality then I do.
Monday, May 3, 2010
HW 53 Survey Analysis
Part 2
This survey was kind of depressing. For some reason I felt like it i did not answer "yes, most definitely" to any of the questions, it made me feel like I was doing something wrong. Like I was suppose to click "Most definitely" for the majority of the questions. The questions about family and friend especially. Those questions were kind of easy to answer because I was sure about most of them already.
I cannot quite remember what questions made me stop and think and this computer would not let me look back on the survey. I think maybe the questions about other people feel made me think, like what are other peoples desires? This is kind of hard to answer because we only feel and understand ourselves as we are the one playing the roles in our own lives. It is hard to understand what anyone else wants or feels unless we are them.
Relationships was a big theme throughout the whole survey obviously. Especially about love in every relationship. The question that stated "what is love to you?" made me definitely think a lot. I really have no idea. When I was a little bit younger and heartbroken little teenager going through puberty I use to despise the idea of love and say it was a mental disorder. Now that I am in love I enjoy it more. I also realized as I got older and more mature that there was love between friends and family but why is love (feel or mentioned) differently between different people? Love is always brought up in a positive light. Love is something very popular in our culture. Why? :/
Part 3
I really liked the survey and just taking a look and analyzing it. It was something different. There are a lot of things that I noticed. One main thing that we all concluded from the analysis was that we tend to think others peoples lives may be similar to ours but in reality it is not. We need to realize that everyone has different situations in their lives. It also maybe makes me think of people's intentions while taking the survey mainly because some things seem like a lie.
One thing that kind of took interest to me is the question about how men are expected to take initiative in a relationship. I guess in my perspective I figured this was not the case. I've always tried to be a dominate person and my mom would always tell me to be a "strong girl." So I figured in our generation we would not still be expected men to take initiative. Although I think it depends on the ratio between male and female that answered this question. It makes me think if me are the ones who expect that they need to provide high expectations or is it women?
Another thing that really seemed weird is the drugs and alcohol questions. The fact that people say that they have never been drunk or have done drugs. From knowing all the teenagers in school and their obsessive partying I am pretty sure that this is a lie. Although in class we talked about the link between the students that actually do their work to this general answer. Most of the kids who slack and party probably did not actually take the survey to begin with. Although it could have been this weird subconscious thing. I tried to answer at honest as possible but I have to admit there was some sort of subconscious part of me that still felt like someone would know it was me who was answering the questions. Like someone was watching it which is kind of creepy. Or maybe people think of questions in different ways.
For example is the suicide question. This question is probably the most risky of questions. Though people could have interpreted it differently. Showing how everyone thinks and reacts to things differently. They could have saw this question as have you ever thought about suicide in your whole life or do you think about suicide now or have you ever thought about suicide at all as a small thought of what it would be like.
The last thing was the family questions. I was kind of jealous of all the majority positive answers there were. Yes what took me back was all the negative answers from the short questions which seemed like it totally contradicted all the positive. It seemed kind of sad that most answer were like "lazy" or "failure" but when I think about it maybe there parents just say those things to kind of motivate kids to do things. Not sure if that is good parenting or not. Its kind of like how my parents say I am not skinny enough to have me look the way they expect me to. It does not seem right. Maybe teenagers see the way their parents seem them differently then how their parents actually view them. A lot of this stuff is just really confusing and has so many different explanations that may or may not be true.
This survey was kind of depressing. For some reason I felt like it i did not answer "yes, most definitely" to any of the questions, it made me feel like I was doing something wrong. Like I was suppose to click "Most definitely" for the majority of the questions. The questions about family and friend especially. Those questions were kind of easy to answer because I was sure about most of them already.
I cannot quite remember what questions made me stop and think and this computer would not let me look back on the survey. I think maybe the questions about other people feel made me think, like what are other peoples desires? This is kind of hard to answer because we only feel and understand ourselves as we are the one playing the roles in our own lives. It is hard to understand what anyone else wants or feels unless we are them.
Relationships was a big theme throughout the whole survey obviously. Especially about love in every relationship. The question that stated "what is love to you?" made me definitely think a lot. I really have no idea. When I was a little bit younger and heartbroken little teenager going through puberty I use to despise the idea of love and say it was a mental disorder. Now that I am in love I enjoy it more. I also realized as I got older and more mature that there was love between friends and family but why is love (feel or mentioned) differently between different people? Love is always brought up in a positive light. Love is something very popular in our culture. Why? :/
Part 3
I really liked the survey and just taking a look and analyzing it. It was something different. There are a lot of things that I noticed. One main thing that we all concluded from the analysis was that we tend to think others peoples lives may be similar to ours but in reality it is not. We need to realize that everyone has different situations in their lives. It also maybe makes me think of people's intentions while taking the survey mainly because some things seem like a lie.
One thing that kind of took interest to me is the question about how men are expected to take initiative in a relationship. I guess in my perspective I figured this was not the case. I've always tried to be a dominate person and my mom would always tell me to be a "strong girl." So I figured in our generation we would not still be expected men to take initiative. Although I think it depends on the ratio between male and female that answered this question. It makes me think if me are the ones who expect that they need to provide high expectations or is it women?
Another thing that really seemed weird is the drugs and alcohol questions. The fact that people say that they have never been drunk or have done drugs. From knowing all the teenagers in school and their obsessive partying I am pretty sure that this is a lie. Although in class we talked about the link between the students that actually do their work to this general answer. Most of the kids who slack and party probably did not actually take the survey to begin with. Although it could have been this weird subconscious thing. I tried to answer at honest as possible but I have to admit there was some sort of subconscious part of me that still felt like someone would know it was me who was answering the questions. Like someone was watching it which is kind of creepy. Or maybe people think of questions in different ways.
For example is the suicide question. This question is probably the most risky of questions. Though people could have interpreted it differently. Showing how everyone thinks and reacts to things differently. They could have saw this question as have you ever thought about suicide in your whole life or do you think about suicide now or have you ever thought about suicide at all as a small thought of what it would be like.
The last thing was the family questions. I was kind of jealous of all the majority positive answers there were. Yes what took me back was all the negative answers from the short questions which seemed like it totally contradicted all the positive. It seemed kind of sad that most answer were like "lazy" or "failure" but when I think about it maybe there parents just say those things to kind of motivate kids to do things. Not sure if that is good parenting or not. Its kind of like how my parents say I am not skinny enough to have me look the way they expect me to. It does not seem right. Maybe teenagers see the way their parents seem them differently then how their parents actually view them. A lot of this stuff is just really confusing and has so many different explanations that may or may not be true.
Sunday, May 2, 2010
HW 52 Human relationship
Okay so I am just going to splurge about ideas of human relationships. One thing that I seem to notice is that people always seem to be really needy. No matter how many things we seem to be able claim from what we want, people cannot get enough. We are always wanting more. When we have a great family, we want friends, after we get friends, we want true love, if we have that we want something more. No one is ever content with anything. Why is no one every content? I guess this is hard because everyone always seems to think of themselves because of the fact that we are our own main characters in the story of our lives.
Another thing is communication. I was always intrigued by how people communicate with each other. How in every relationship (not just talking about intimate relationships but lovers, friends and families) there is always problems that seem to be caused by lack of communication. So what is the right way to communicate between each groups of people. We were always taught that when communicating it is best to state to the person how you are feeling and why calmly. Who the heck comes up with the "rules" of communication or what works?
Sometimes I find myself having a hard time communicating. Although now it makes me wonder what is "good" communication? Or what is the real definition of communication? Talking, having a deep conversation, small talk? I have no problem communication with my boyfriend (at least I think we have good communication, whatever the definition for that is) but I always founds myself having trouble communication among friends. To be honest I think I need to learn how to make friends and keep them first before worrying about communicating.
This brings up my other thought of how you are expected to make different relationships. Or how to make good relationships. How are you expected to find a best friend? I feel finding one of those are really hard to do as I do not really have a best friend other then my boyfriend. What is a best friend? To my knowledge a best friend is someone who you can "communicate" with about anything, emotions, secretes, humor. We always seem to need to surround ourselves with relationships.
Another thing is communication. I was always intrigued by how people communicate with each other. How in every relationship (not just talking about intimate relationships but lovers, friends and families) there is always problems that seem to be caused by lack of communication. So what is the right way to communicate between each groups of people. We were always taught that when communicating it is best to state to the person how you are feeling and why calmly. Who the heck comes up with the "rules" of communication or what works?
Sometimes I find myself having a hard time communicating. Although now it makes me wonder what is "good" communication? Or what is the real definition of communication? Talking, having a deep conversation, small talk? I have no problem communication with my boyfriend (at least I think we have good communication, whatever the definition for that is) but I always founds myself having trouble communication among friends. To be honest I think I need to learn how to make friends and keep them first before worrying about communicating.
This brings up my other thought of how you are expected to make different relationships. Or how to make good relationships. How are you expected to find a best friend? I feel finding one of those are really hard to do as I do not really have a best friend other then my boyfriend. What is a best friend? To my knowledge a best friend is someone who you can "communicate" with about anything, emotions, secretes, humor. We always seem to need to surround ourselves with relationships.
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